Friends, Lovers, And the Big Terrible Thing

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In an extraordinary story that only he could tell, Matthew Perry takes readers onto the soundstage of the most successful sitcom of all time while opening up about his private struggles with addiction. Candid, self-aware, and told with his trademark humor, Perry vividly details his lifelong battle with the disease and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all. Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that shares the most intimate details of the love Perry lost, his darkest days, and his greatest friends. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and hilarious: this is the book fans have been waiting for.
Friends, Lovers, And the Big Terrible Thing
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Guest a month ago

“I think you actually have to have all of your dreams come true to realize they are the wrong dreams.”
― Matthew Perry

Let's start with the elephant in the room: Matthew Perry isn't a great writer, at least not in this format. He writes like he speaks, and of course like Chandler Bing speaks. Matthew Perry also isn't a bad writer, the book just lacked polish. Some sentences didn't flow well and others just needed to be reworded by a trusty editor.
I often say: it is important to read a story for what it is, not what you hope it will be. This is a memoir, a story that belongs to someone else, so it doesn't really matter if you like the things the writer says. Books are adventures, experiences, and boy was this a train I didn't like being on.
Despite the need for an editor this is a great story. Heart wrenching and heartwarming all at once. It is clear there was no ghost writer trying to make it sound better or clean up the story. What Matthew Perry does that other books didn't (Jessica Simpson, for example) is take you into the mind of an addict and tell you why all the trite things we think/say ("just stop drinking") won't work. He outlines the desperation, the pain, the idiocy, the DISEASE. He doesn't make excuses, but does try to explain the feelings of inadequacy, the childhood traumas, the mental turmoil. I don't understand it, but I don't need to. I found it compelling. I found it to be a cautionary tale. And by the end I was 100% on team Matty. I hope he continues on the path God had laid out for him, I hope he stays on the wagon and continues to help people, I hope he finds the love he has longed for and finishes out his days creating the art he is so good at creating.
If you recognize the author's intent I think you'll find this to be an excellent read.

Guest a month ago

I had a very difficult time deciding whether or not to rate this memoir. How can you rate someone’s vulnerability or the fact that they’re not a writer; they’re an actor? I found this book to be as raw as a memoir can get. The bravery required to reflect and write such a book left me breathless. I won’t watch Friends the same way, as most won’t, and if this book saves just one person, it’s worth more stars than just five.

Guest a month ago

First of all, I sincerely want to greatly applaud the enormous courage and honesty that the author Matthew Perry has shown in this memoir. It really must have been hard to let the world know about the hardships he faced throughout his life. So once again, Bravo!

I was and still am a big fan of Matthew Pery because of his character Chandler Bing in friends, but you know what...I am even more so after reading this memoir. You deeply touched and moved the world with your character in Friends. You have also now done so by proving that no matter what trials life throws at us, it is possible to overcome them.

In some reviews of this memoir, several people pointed out that there was some repetitions and that there was a lot of negativities...how dare they focus on these little details. Don't you see the message that Matthew Perry is sending here? Instead, try to center your judgments on the fact that he had the bravery to openly tell us about his great suffering during all these years.

Guest a month ago

This was an audiobook listen for me.
This is an extremely captivating memoir to listen to. I highly recommend listening to it as an audiobook as it's narrated by Matthew. It's amazing how much he has struggled with addiction in his life. For example, taking up to 55 pills a day. He has alcohol, drug, and smoking addictions and he's had them for over 20 or 30 years. There is some discussion about the TV show Friends and a lot of talk about his past loves but it's really focused around his struggles.

Guest a month ago

When I first started the book, I wasn’t sure I could finish it (and I force myself to finish everything! It’s a bad habit that I have that slows my reading pace!) “Poor Matthew” would be the two words I would use to sum up this book. I realize that he has had a lot of good and major opportunities abs great things in his life, but I wouldn’t trade him for the world. Yikes. He really struggled. And I don’t say that with judgment, but with true pity. I feel badly for him for all that he went through, regardless of whether a lot of it happened due to decisions he made in the beginning of it all. He is lonely. No one deserves to feel abandoned and alone and those are his true struggles and the root of all of his problems. I truly truly hope for him that he is through it all and can enjoy the rest of his life without struggle.

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